Did I tell you all that I live in a society were self-care should be the last thing on my mind? Or may be a part of my definition for self-care doesn’t match with what the society expects out of me.
I have been one among those who wanted to break free from everything that suffocated me, but I was always taught that family’s reputation should never be stained. I was supposed to be this goody-goody girl who put herself last and everything else first. But then I realised what is the point of doing all this when deep down in my heart I am unhappy? What is the point of pleasing others by keeping up with the fake smile and stopping myself from breaking free and just being myself?
Till the time I used to swim, I used to talk to myself in the water, I used to scream and shout in the water so that the world outside doesn’t get to know about the agony in me. It went on this way for a while till I couldn’t stand this any more. I then decided to break free.
I decided to give myself priority and then worry about everyone else because of a simple logical reason… If I am unhappy, how will I be able to spread happiness and peace around me?
So, here are those points which define what I mean by self-care:
- If it feels wrong, don’t do it
- Say exactly what you mean
- Don’t be a people pleaser
- Trust your instincts
- Never speak bad about yourself
- Never give up on your dreams
- Don’t be afraid to say no
- Don’t be afraid to say yes
- Be kind to yourself
- Let go of what you cannot control and can’t be in your control either
- Stay away from drama & negativity
It hasn’t been easy for me to follow these 12 rules of self-care. I have been scolded by the elders, I have been called selfish, self-centred and so on by my so called friends and relatives.
Am I doing something wrong? 😦
What do you think? Is it wrong to give yourself preference and taking care of your own happiness?